How Can Family & Friends Help With Relationship Concerns?

For those who are experiencing problems in their relationships the support of family and friends can be vital.

A support network can provide not only emotional support, but also practical assistance that can make a difference to relationships and behaviour change.

If you’re concerned about someone whose behaviour is causing problems in their relationships – either with you or with someone else they’re close to – here’s how you can help:

• Check in with them to see how they are doing and let them know you’re there for them
• Ask the person how you can best support them
• Find a time to talk to them when they are calm and not under the influence
• Express you concerns honestly but try to stay positive. Emphasise that you care for them, offer encouragement and reassure them that you believe they can change
• Remind them that improving their relationships will have benefits for them and those around them
• Listen to what they tell you without judgement. Take the time to hear what they’re saying without contradicting them or getting into arguments
• Avoid taking sides – try to stay as neutral as possible
• Avoid giving advice – being a good listener is enough and advice often won’t be appreciated
• Share with them the strategies you have found helpful in the past
• Encourage the person to seek professional help if you think they would benefit. The more support and help they have available, the more likely they are to achieve their goals
• Set healthy boundaries and follow through – it’s not your role to put up with unacceptable behaviour or to cover up for them
• Look after your own wellbeing – you will be a better support to others when you look after yourself

If you think your friend or family member needs professional support and want to find outmore about Helm, speak with our Client Services team on 1300 388 576. They’ll discuss your situation and answer any questions about how Helm can help.

If you’re ready for support, book a 50-minute consult specifically designed for concerned friends and family members, where you’ll meet with one of our counsellors.

The team at Helm has over 30 years experience helping people through relationship counselling. Whether this is the first time you’ve thought about getting help for your family member or friend, or you feel like you’ve tried everything, our team has the skills, training and experience to get things back on track.