How Can Family and Friends Help With Problem Gambling?
If you’re concerned that someone you care about might have a gambling problem or addiction, knowing the signs can help.
You might have noticed changes to their mood, behaviour and finances, along with things like:
- They struggle to pay bills on time.
- They’ve been borrowing money for gambling.
- They owe money to the bank or to friends and family.
- They’re spending less time with friends and family.
- They’ve been getting into arguments with their partner or family.
- They can’t explain where their money goes.
- They get angered easily and often seem sad or stressed, especially after gambling.
- They have trouble concentrating on work or getting their work done.
- They’ve been drinking or smoking more than usual.
Supporting someone without judgement through their problems can make it easier for them to change their behaviour, to cope with challenges and setbacks, and to maintain their goal of living life without gambling.
Here are some proven tips and strategies to support people for whom you want to provide gambling help:
- Try to understand your loved one’s perspective and communicate your concerns clearly. Offer hope and encouragement.
- Change takes time – they will most likely face challenges as they try to change their behaviour. Be patient and offer them emotional support and encouragement throughout the process.
- Celebrate all the non-gambling ‘wins’, e.g. help them learn a new skill.
- Simple gestures such as listening and offering emotional support can go a long way. You can offer support and encouragement, but it’s up to them to make change.
- It’s normal to feel drained and stressed throughout the change process. If dealing with these stressors becomes hard or too much, seek support from others or get in touch.
If you think your friend or family member needs professional support and want to find out more about Helm, call our Client Services team on 1300 588 576. They’ll discuss your situation and answer any questions about how Helm can help.
If you’re ready for support, book a 50-minute consult specifically designed for concerned friends and family members, where you’ll meet with one of our counsellors.
The team at Helm has almost 30 years’ experience helping people to assess their gambling, understand their patterns of behaviour and implement tools for change. Helm offers online counselling and coaching as well as over-the-phone and in-person sessions.
Whether this is the first time you’ve thought about getting help for your family member or friend, or you feel like you’ve tried everything, our team has the skills, training and experience to get them where you want them to be.
